Pastor Enoch Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), has advised Christian couples to maintain a balance between spiritual responsibilities and marital romance. He emphasized that religious commitment should not overshadow the importance of intimacy between spouses.
In a post shared on his official X (formerly Twitter) account, Adeboye reminded couples that romance is a key element of a healthy Christian marriage, stating, “The fact that you are a Christian does not in any way take the romance out of your marriage.” He further explained that marriage is the only institution where romantic intimacy is divinely sanctioned between a man and a woman.
Pastor Adeboye also addressed a concern prevalent among some church leaders, urging pastors not to neglect their romantic relationships. He noted that some pastors shy away from engaging in romantic activities with their spouses, seeing them as distractions from their spiritual focus. “Some pastors hardly go on dates with their spouses because they consider such a romantic activity as a distraction from their focus on spiritual matters,” he explained.
He emphasized that even simple acts of affection, such as going on dates or playing with one’s spouse, are important for maintaining a joyful and fulfilling marriage. Drawing from biblical references, Adeboye cited Isaac, a patriarch of faith, who was seen being affectionate with his wife Rebecca in Genesis 26:8. He used this example to highlight that romance does not conflict with spiritual devotion.
“Isaac was an anointed man of God and a successful businessman, yet in the Bible, he was seen being romantic with his wife,” Adeboye explained. He urged couples to make time with their spouse enjoyable, reminding them not to become overly rigid or detached from the fun and intimacy that sustains a healthy relationship.
The respected cleric, who has been married to his wife Foluke for over 50 years, shared personal insights into how they continue to nurture their relationship. He mentioned small but meaningful gestures like using pet names, encouraging couples to focus on creating joyful experiences together and to make their marriage a priority, alongside their spiritual growth.
Pastor Adeboye concluded by advising couples to embrace romance, saying, “Don’t have more fun elsewhere without your spouse. Make the times that you and your spouse spend together so much fun that you are always looking forward to seeing each other again.”